“You Missed It”

YouMissedIt“You missed it,” Gina said to Millie on the phone. “Why weren’t you at church?”

Millie sighed and said, “I had such an exhausting day that I was too tired to go.”

Gina replied, “You’re slacking off Millie! You should have been there. God moved powerfully and you totally missed it.”

Millie’s stomach was in knots. She had put in a 14-hour day at work and could barely stay awake for the phone call. When Gina ended the call,  Millie felt condemned. She felt like a loser.

I’ve heard of people who have cried when they are told over and over again that, “You missed it.”

I have never read one scripture where Jesus or any of the disciples told one of their followers that “they missed it” because they didn’t make it to a synagogue meeting. There are plenty of scriptures about missing the kingdom of God but  not one where Jesus tells his followers, “You missed it.”

I understand the benefits of church attendance and being faithful. But I have never understood the tactic of making someone else feel like they are less of a Christian because they didn’t make it to church. Instead of asking Millie why she  didn’t make it to church, why didn’t her church friend ask her how she was doing? Where was the love and the care in that conversation? Why not offer prayer for Millie to be strengthened?

I know I use to push regular church attendance until God convicted me that I was not the Holy Spirit. Why someone misses church isn’t any of my business. I know I’m my “brothers-keeper” but if I don’t show any love for this person, than I’m like a loud sounding noisy brass cymbal. I’m  not bringing life but death.

“If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a  clanging cymbal.” 1 Corinthians 13:1

The next time you notice that someone isn’t at church, here’s how you can reach out to them with love:

* Call and ask them how they are doing.
* Offer to pray for them.
* Offer to take them out to lunch or dinner.
* Offer to take care of their kids if they are a
single mom or a mom with toddlers
* When you finish talking to them, pray for

Don’t treat someone like they have a legal, contractual obligation to attend church. Treat them like a person that you love and care for. When people are told over and over again that “they missed it,” they might believe you and quit attending church. Don’t be the reason someone quits coming to church. You be the reason someone stays in the race.

11 thoughts on ““You Missed It”

    • Me too ugh! Someone actually told me how they did this to someone else and they felt proud of it. I cringed inside. God help us.

      On Tue, Jun 24, 2014 at 2:43 PM, Keeping It Real from Leilani Haywood wrote:


  1. I pray that this will bring a holy conviction to everyone who reads this! This is the message of the hour! If we don’t stop condemning and be love, to a loveless generation, we have missed the point completely!! We need to be convicted, and ask ourselves, what are we doing??? What are we doing?? Let’s stop driving people out of church, all the while, blaming them for not wanting to come back!! Let’s stop driving people out of church, like the pharisees did!

    • Totally agree. I’m a former Pharisee who use to do this. Ugh! Then I realized how damaging this was to the cause of Christ. When I noticed I had not seen some people at church, I called them. They had moved and shared with me the new adventure God had sent them on. I prayed for them, blessed them and we are still friends. That’s what I call gathering people in love.

      On Mon, Jun 2, 2014 at 10:20 AM, Keeping It Real from Leilani Haywood wrote:


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